This is a post written by my friend Sara Kujawa about experiencing the holidays after a loved one has crossed over. I try to post it every year around this time. No matter our circumstances, we can always choose to do grief differently.
It was not until my son Adam’s sudden passing in 2014 that I truly understood resisting change. How was I going to be able to bear having a family Thanksgiving, let alone a family Christmas ever again without Adam these traditions were so engrained in me and so important that I never thought it would change, and that they would always be “picture perfect”. I remember stating to my family weeks after Adam passed that I did not know how I was to be able to ever have another holiday without him being present and that I wanted to just skip over them from now on.
Little did I know what a journey I was about to embark on just months into my grief. I always believed in heaven and the afterlife growing up. As an adult, I gained a greater understanding about heaven and the knowing that our loved ones will give us signs to let us know they are there. I knew and accepted that they could send a message through, songs, animals, feathers, and of course pennies from heaven for I had my own experiences after my parents passed. A few months into my journey through grief I learned of energy healing which led me on the path of learning the importance of how not to resist change, and to have faith, and trust that God will only give us what we can handle. As I learned to lessen the resistance and accept that I could not change the past nor control the future, I was able to look forward with a bit more ease.
As I did more doors began to appear for me to open. I could sense and see my life’s path in front of me as the grief began to lessen. Forgiving those involved in my son’s accident, and forgiving myself for any hurts I felt I had caused, or any hurts that others had caused me or my family…that was the key. This opened me up, and my heart began filling with gratitude and grace for what I had endured.
As I began to accept the change, I was able to see how I could do grief differently during the holidays. You see I began communicating with my son firstly through signs and synchronicites, and also with the help of spirit translators (mediumship). My granddaughter had already been hearing her father, my son, since his passing. I had to let go of how my holidays used to be, and create new ways to celebrate, new traditions to help enjoy the holidays with the knowing that my son was right there with us in spirit. My perception of that Norman Rockwell holiday meal has changed. What is normal, what is picture perfect anyways?
Our loved ones in spirit check in on us all the time, in fact we are never alone, and they want us to recall happy memories and silly stories. I encourage you all to do grief differently during the holidays by thinking about your loved ones and reminiscing and writing letters to them, by making their special dish, putting photos out of them. Anything that will uplift you. Remember we are emotional beings so be kind to yourself. Respect your feelings and take special care of what you put into your body. Light exercise, plenty of water and getting out in nature as much as possible will help keep your body in balance. Surround yourself with positive people who uplift you. Honor your feelings and feel free to be able to express them verbally or by journaling them. Try to stay more present in your thoughts. Write out a mantra or an affirmation to help you to be more present. I modified the Reiki Principles as my go to mantra.
~Just for this hour I will not worry.
~Just for this hour I will not anger.
~Just for this hour I will be grateful.
~Just for this hour I will show kindness to all.
Please know that their is no right or wrong way to do grief but there is certainly a freer, more peaceful way.
Blessings to you all this holiday season…..
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Editor’s note: Sara is available for readings and coaching sessions.
We believe, Father, that you are actively at work in our world. We believe that you are a God that is actively at work here among us. As we choose to connect with Your Love, our reality opens up in inspiring new ways. We then can see the presence of Your Love at work in our world. Our world is meant to be viewed keeping You in our minds and hearts, and when we do, we see it. The greatest of all reality is the presence of You in our world. You are the core reality from which all things derive its reality. What isn’t real, what isn’t Love, does not belong to You, and doesn’t belong here.
So much suffering because so many of us have forgotten that we are made of Your Love and that we are One Family. Help us, Father, as the family that we are, to see and live in the reality that You are at work in our world and it is becoming a brighter, more loving place. Out of our greatest sorrows, we find true love of being here together, sharing this experience that is miraculously turning into greater living. So much potential blooms when our Souls recognize this reality.
As Your Godly crystalline Light shines, You flood our world with Love. That beautiful Light is You holding out Your Hand to us, sending a thousand gossamer Angels sliding down sun beams to come and embrace us to mend broken hearts. This reality Father, is the one we choose. The one of life, of love, of joy, creativity and growth. “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” (Psalm 147:3)
We thank you for this day, Father. We thank you for the opportunity to get to know ourselves through all our challenges and experiences. It sometimes isn’t easy to know why we do the things we do, or who we really are, and that makes us go searching. If we look deep inside to get to know who that person really is, it takes us to the temple within ourselves. “My soul thirsts for God, for the living God. When can I go and meet with God?” (Psalm 42) In that temple in our core, that sacred space, exists the sound of the Universe. We realize that we are much more than we ever thought possible, an eternal soul, and that is when we meet You there. “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” (Jeremiah)
Finding you there inside us is like the most comforting blanket that could ever exist. When we connect with you inside ourselves, it is like all things exist for this one pivotal moment when our best destiny is at our fingertips, and we can feel as if it is already here, in the best way possible. It is in this way that we create with you, Father, by knowing it to be truly so, and having the self-discipline to keep our best thoughts and feelings alive in our NOW, so that we make the perfect nest for our golden future to soon be our golden NOW. “Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.” (Proverbs 16)
May we all be blessed with the peace of our best destiny manifesting in our golden NOW. Come into our lives, Father, and those of all our teammates and loved ones. May our work together be blessed.
There are many concerns and worries in the world now. As we start our day, and look over the events that mark the world’s footsteps through time, we are reminded to maintain that connection of our heart to our mind. Looking at the world right now, our logic mind can make us feel like You are missing, and we tend to wonder where You are in all this. But, when our heart is connected, our minds won’t go into worry, think in circles, and get lost in “what ifs.” You are in everything, and when we reach out to feel your living Universal spirit, pure logic changes into inspired knowing, one that flushes all fear and worry, and settles into the task at hand.
Our lives are governed by the motions of our work, and our interactions with eachother. When we stop for just a moment, and set the intention to connect with you in a direct manner, by reaching inward and finding you there in our inner temple, we can feel the music of the Universe. Instead of drudgery, we see life as a muli-faceted living reality inviting us to swim in the flow of life that wants us to thrive. We see that life is really much more than we thought. We then come alive and feel you Father. We begin to live again.
Bless our hearts and our minds. May we see the truth in all things. May our worries and concerns be transformed into guided wisdom as in James, “But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.” This brings a new compassion, one bourne of experience. “To sum up, all of you be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.” (1Peter)
May our minds be quieted to connect with our hearts, to open our eyes and see You in all the miracles that are happening in real-time, all around.
Today we reach the bridge where we meet you, where our humanness somehow melds your divinity. We choose to walk in the Light, Father. Because remaining in darkness keeps us connected with the things we don’t want, instead of being connected to all things of the Light that we do want. We realize that we are here to unite with you. To rely on you. To trust in the unconditional love of you, realizing that everything good, beautiful and true comes from you, offered in love.
We ask that all blockages fall away, Father, that doors open for us that bring us to a rebirth of who we truly are, Children of the Light. May we always walk in the light, our feet touching the Earth in a song of vibrancy. May we walk in the spirit of vitality and renewal. May we have a benevolent effect on everything we reach with the work of our hands. May our voices speak in ways that always ring true. May everything we bring forth send out waves of Light with unerring devotion. “But whoever does the truth comes out into the light, so that what he is doing may plainly appear as done in God.” (John 3:19)
Come into our hearts, come into our minds, let our Soul sing out in praise of this great journey. Keep us ever mindful that the miracles of change that we are witnessing in this world are coming from your hand and happening because of the dedication of the great warrior inside each of us. All perfectly pieced together and flowing as a chorus of magnificent declaration of the power of life, sung by the true children of the Living God.
This is a continuation of my Legacy Book, the pages following the introduction of the The Thirteen Keys (see below.) I thought it was time to share a few more pages so I schlepped my book out into the sun and snapped away. I hope it is helpful in some way for someone. To see our lives with an expanded vision that unlocks our heart and helps us heal in some magical way. As always. Love.
These keys unlock our true self from the early conditioning of our small ego self. Thus we can see all truths on many vibrational levels at once. We are now free to choose the peace of a higher vibrational reality. How many things looked like the worst thing ever as they were happening to us, but then later, we find that it was a really good thing that it happened.
When you’re aware that you are aware, that’s consciousness. You are in the wave function of all possibility. This is what is called The Great Awakening.
Our reality may give us conflicting information, or, each of us may experience a separate different reality. All this is possible through the quantum superposition of states. When it happens, don’t panic, just choose the version that is your favorite. This is because a particle is all things and everything. It’s pure potential. An observer interprets it and locks it in. Everything in our environment, our bodies are made of these energy particles and our consciousness is the observer.
Every seemingly solid thing on this planet is made of the tiniest particles that are merely vibrating energy. All the real mass in our Universe would fit in a sugar cube. Consciousness is the awareness that populates these “solid” things, at different degrees of intensity.
The Observer’s thoughts and emotions affect reality. The Universe is a Yes Machine. What we put out, comes back to us. The more neutral and open-minded we are, the more there is room for magic to happen.
Keep asking “How good can it get?”
Healing our pain, letting go of judgment, guilt, shame, blame, fear and any other heavy emotions clears our field, and the tapestry of our life becomes more vibrant. Our intentions and feelings and reactions are all woven into the fabric that becomes the story of this life for us. We can become more deliberate creators if we can raise our awareness enough to choose how we think and react. This is why we are graduating to become more proficient as conscious creators of our lives and discovering the truth of who and what we really are.
“I relinquish the battle within myself and allow the process of my ascension to consciously proceed.”
“Look to the future and release the past. All of time is in this NOW moment.”
The more we resist moving with the flow of conscious awareness, the more we feel something is wrong. We find it by going within.
Our beliefs create our reality. The strength of our beliefs matter and feeling gratitude and appreciation as if it already happened hastens our creations.
As we attain higher consciousness, our Light Body begins to build from the inside out. Our bodies literally change to hold more Light. Then we are able to access so much more of our authentic self.
I thank you for the work you have done and the work you never knew you did to get us to this point. <3
It’s less about the systems being wrong and more about the Earth changing. Human and planet systems have to rise to a higher vibration to match the New Earth. They have become enlightened, kinder, cleaner, honest, smart, loving, compassionate, wise, patient, beautiful, healthy, productive, benevolent, decent, cooperative, harmonized, peaceful, joyful, straight forward and for the highest good.
If the Earth stayed at the old lower frequency, those old systems would still serve us. The energy comes in waves at certain dates and celestial alignments. We get an increase in higher frequencies- actually bathed in them, all around and from within the Earth, and from our Sun. The wave crests and then recedes, allowing us to recalibrate and adjust. But sometimes and as we gently ascend, the new low point is higher than before, so we ascend in steps. As our bodies adjust, we go through changes and aches and pains and flu-like experiences. But, as we get through the hard adjustments, we will begin to feel bliss.
Author’s Note: I created these pages a few years ago, I want to make two corrections here. First- Yes it is about the Earth changing, but the darkness and corruption of the old systems cannot be allowed to continue. Second- Yes, the higher energies used to come in waves, but now, they do not recede very much, we just keep stair-stepping in an upward climb. 😉
Our emotions may roil. Buried issues emerge. They get vibrated to the surface for us to see and deal with and let go. As we become more consciously aware and feel the bliss of the higher energy, some problems and issues may just dissolve. Our reality may become such that those things never truly existed.
As we enter the 5th dimension and above, healing may occur on any level, from any moment in time and space, and our reality may morph into something better coming from our wildest dreams. We only need to be open to all possibilities and ask, “How good can it get?”
We can patch in the missing parts of ourselves due to trauma, pain, shame, guilt, etc., retroactively. The multidimensional aspects of our true nature will incorporate the patch where it belongs. Our reality timeline literally shifts to one where we are whole and well. With help from the ArchAngels, our healing and well-being is assured.
Taking time for quiet reflection allows us to process and extract new insights. Our guides and teachers provide deeper understanding. We can transmute the energies and let go of what does not serve us. In this way, we are co-creating our experience and directly interacting with the creative process. Our insights, especially if they become elevated to a more positively charged, higher vibrational level, can become powerful medicine, exponentially.
The issues in our lives today may have roots buried in places we cannot see. as multidimensional eternal beings, simply by using our intention, and allowing the healing process to occur, we can heal it all… permanently.
It’s about working through subconscious programming. Unplugging the triggers in this life, because not that the veil has been thinned enough for us to claim our sovereignty. We are retraining ourselves from automatically reacting out of survival mode and allowing our innate wisdom to guide us in the moment, with the aid of our superconscious selves, making decisions with full conscious awareness is the new human condition.
Our negative emotions are a pointing system giving us guidance to subconscious programmed beliefs a the are running our lives, when we are really upset, responding to something in our life in a negative way, we either stuff it down or use tools to look at ourselves and deal with what is inside us. If we can stop blaming the people in our lives long enough to see that we are upset because of what is still living within us. When we finally deal with what is inside of us, we can meet any circumstance with compassion and understanding, and ultimately, love and joy. If we can have the patience and courage to ask ourselves in the moment, “what lives in me that is creating this response?” It may take a while to find it, it may take a little digging, but putting our finger on the stressful thoughts that we are believing, we free ourselves from the subconscious programming that is running our life. The programming that drives us instead of us steering our lives consciously. The programming colors how we see life and how we react to it.
False beliefs such as I’m not worthy, I’m a failure, people don’t like me, I’m not lovable, are embedded in our subconscious from childhood and the past. They limit us and whenever we get upset, they run our reactions instead of a clear channel to our free superconscious higher mind that contains all our wisdom. When we become aware of their control over our lives, keeping us in cycles of compulsive reaction, impulsiveness and unhealthy coping techniques, to heal, we go INTO the painful thoughts that are at the roots. We actually feel into them, they do not serves us any longer and we can see that. They were just part of an experience we agreed to have in this life, but now it is time to transcend. It’s okay to relinquish the battle within ourselves trying to prove them wrong, they already are wrong. Time to shift to our true selves.
When we’re not reacting anymore to the things that we used to, that means we’ve done the work and we get to level up. There may be a few tests first that we set up for ourselves in spirit in order to determine that we are ready. We’ll know this because we will wonder in bewilderment, “why is this coming up again? I thought I was done with that lesson.” If we just sit tight and allow the trigger situation to pass, we get to ascend.
There might be a vision or dream, filled with symbolism but we will usually get a feeling of accomplishment, of celebration, of something big happening, and an opening up of a higher level of awareness, associated with the energy centers of the body. We may be given something symbolic that marks our accomplishment and new Guides or Teachers to help us through the next exciting phase. This is why we do the work. This is why we push on when we feel stuck.
All this to unlock the Temple in our hearts. To unlock the secrets of life, we must go inside. We agree to go through from a soul level because it’s like going through a rock tumbler, knocking off the sharp edges, then tumbling against things over and over, ever refining in order to get to the inside which we then polish to a bright brilliant shine, that emanates from within. It is there that God resides
The answers are within. When we clear away the cobwebs, the baggage, the issues, we get a clear direct connection to the Divine Love inside of us. The Divine Wisdom that comes directly from God. God is in every element and atom and molecule, and in the space between them too. God is in the very center of our Soul. Each of us is helping Source/God create and learn about all the ways Love can be expressed through a dense, physical experience.
You are everything the Divine had in mind.
You are perfect.
You are part of all that is, but you are a unique composition and can only be who you are…
It’s getting challenging. Families are already stretched and inflation seems to be getting worse. We are getting so used to the struggle that we may not realize we are falling into a pattern of fear, worry and depression. It can lead to falling into hopelessness and despair. That’s not good for us, the people around us, and the collective as a whole. Luckily, there are ways to break the stress cycle, pull ourselves out of the mud and lift ourselves up. If we can form new healthier habits, we can train ourselves not to go into defeatism and low vibrational thinking.
For those who would like to make changes, the following are suggestions to lift ourselves up and out of hopelessness.
Count Your Blessings– Putting emphasis on the things for which you are grateful shifts your mood and attracts more blessings toward you.
Laugh– Laughter releases natural biochemicals that lift you up.
Nature Rules– Go out into nature to soak in fresh air and sunlight. Watch fish, birds and squirrels.
Animals are the Best– Always the best medicine to spend time with a pet.
Loved Ones– Spend time with upbeat people who are loving. Positive people who care about us give us a boost.
Exercise– Gets blood pumping, releases biochemicals, gives clarity of mind and moves stuck energy.
Listen to Music– Doing things while listening to music can get you into a state where everything flows.
Accomplishment– Set rewarding goals that are within grasp, if that goes well, try for something harder.
Self Care– Most of us are trained to think of ourselves last, but changing things up to schedule some regular self pampering does good for one’s mental health.
Flow State– Being actively engaged in an activity that allows the mind to go with its own flow lifts vibration. Flow is power, and power flows.
Kindness– Do something nice for someone without expecting anything in return.
Forgiveness– Do a self assessment and take an inventory of any resentments that could be healed and released through forgiveness and grace.
Homeopathic Remedies Kali Phosphoricum and Natrum Muriaticum
Essential oils such as Bergamot, Lemon, Chamomile, Clary Sage, Lavender, Peppermint and Orange can boost mood.
Mushroom teas made with Chaga, Reishi, Turkey Tail and Lion’s Mane.
Electrolytes- We are being depleted of electrolytes, the basic building blocks of our cells. These are minerals found in natural salt that have been stripped out of our commercially produced salt. See this post here.
Therapeutic Modalities–
Energy Healing- Can cleanse, clear and raise our energy
Tuning Forks- Hitting a 528 hz tuning fork on a hockey puck and waving it through our biofield can retune and refresh our vibration and align it with Earth’s Love energy vibration.
EFT Tapping Sequence- Tap on certain meridian points to nullify fear and doubt. It works.
Simplify Life– If we take a good look at our life, we really don’t need to create so many obligations for ourselves. We could probably find things we could do without and once we let them go, we probably wouldn’t miss them. When we clear out clutter, it makes room for wonderful new things to enter our future.
Learn– Learning is growth. What will inspire you to generate interest and wonder? What have you always wanted to learn? Is there a hobby or project that you have been wanting to enjoy? Is there something you’ve always wanted to investigate through your own research? Sharing the things that make each of us naturally curious generates passion.
Adaptability– When things don’t go as expected, we must adapt. If we let ourselves indulge in anger and frustration that are not helpful to the overall plan, we impair progress from ourselves and the collective as a whole. Oh sure we can complain that it isn’t fair when our expectations are not met but, it is how we choose to proceed when no one is looking, that matters most. In this case, in order to not lose any ground, we must examine our character, summon our strength and make the choice to adapt and move forward.
Create– Being co-creators by manifesting a future that makes us feel hopeful. Here are the steps:
Feel yourself there.
Imagine every detail of that future with all your senses.
Believe it to be so.
Bless it and know with faith that the Universe will bring that future to you.
Step out of the way and allow it to happen.
Be Empowered– Our true power starts with being mindful in the moment. Our conscious awareness is a key to being able to steer our life by choosing thoughts and feelings that allow us to gain ground, as a whole.
These tools are available to us in our toolbox to help us cope and pull ourselves up. They can also be used with those around us that need a hand up. As with everything, we have the free will choice to use them. We do still have the free will to choose to complain that things are not going as we expected. I’m going to re-emphasize here that it is how we choose to proceed when no one is looking that matters most. Remember utmost and foremost that we are loved and that we are love.
Let all that you do be done in love. – 1 Corinthians 16:14
Calling on love when we are in a wobble, is applying our sharpest tool. When we call love in, we are calling in a high level force with divine intelligence. One that knows each party involved and has all the details considered. When we want to create a masterpiece, love is the centerpiece.
And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. – Colossians 3:14
Both on an internal personal level and in the outer world, we’ve been going through a clearing and cleansing process. We are going to have to pull from deep down inside ourselves now. This is the part of the movie where the hero shows the audience the stuff of which they are made. It is the hero’s journey and we are the stars of the show.
On a higher collective level, we’ve been trying lots of things out and found what doesn’t work. That’s a good thing. We are zero-ing in on the right path to take as we proceed forward. This process is divinely guided. We are adjusting by feel. We’re so close. Lining up our path with our highest and best destiny and……. Magic! Lock it in.
Expanding Our Light Exercise
Look inside yourself and find the spark of God inside.
It is at your center right above your belly button.
It is God’s spark of life but it is also you.
Brighten that light and make it a little bigger.
Expand that light until it becomes a vertical lighted column from your pelvis up to your collarbone.
Now brighten it and expand it until it fills your entire torso.
You are now a luminous lantern.
That is your light shining from within.
Feel the hum and the tingles in your body.
That is your body rebalancing and healing itself.
Now expand that light down your legs and out your arms and up to the crown of your head.
You should feel a hum or buzzing sensation throughout your entire body. You are now lit!
Now raise your vibration by imagining you are stepping up five stair-steps.
With each step higher, feel lighter and higher and happier.
When we are shining our Light and raised in vibration, lower emotions cannot exist.
Hold it there at the top as long as possible. This is our natural state for which we were designed.
I was sitting outside this morning before dawn, having my coffee. In the quiet, my thoughts took me to reflect on the past few years and all the changes by which we’ve grown. Wow. I looked at my own self. Wow. My overall assessment was- look how strong we’ve gotten in the past few years. Much indeed. We had to summon our inner strength and rely on our inner knowing. The amount of Light hitting our planet right now is causing a drama to play out. The dark simply cannot exist comfortably any longer. Either on a conscious or subconscious level, or both, we’ve been readying ourselves for this time. Let it commence.
Switching gears here…. .
I was nudged to see if EFT Tapping technique can be used in conjunction with manifestation. We’ve talked about Tapping in previous blog posts. (see here) By using one’s fingers to tap places on the body where certain energy meridian points are located, the energies of unwanted thoughts and emotions can be interrupted and reset. Since feelings are of utmost importance in creating the outcome we want, we can tap out, or invert, any feelings that accidently pop in.
Let’s go through it.
Our own I AM presence, our consciousness of being, conceives of an outcome, a wish, that we would like to manifest into physical reality (the new world.) By keeping our objective clearly in mind, we close our eyes and feel what it will be like as if we already have it. We don’t question if it’s possible or how it can be done, simply FEEL that it is already a reality (new world celebrations, peace, joy, health and abundance.) Feeling is the secret to creating and we assume the attitude of mind that would be ours if we were already in possession of it so that we can feel it is done and it is here.
Then we incorporate tapping by making a list of all the possible things that pop into our mind blocking our wish from happening. We systematically read each item on our list as we tap on each area in the series of tapping locations (bridge of nose, eyebrow, corner of eye, under eye, cleft of nose, cleft of chin, collar bone, armpit, karate chop.) By doing this, we are removing the fears and disbelief that can block our creation. How long do we do this and how many times? We do it until we feel neutral about anything keeping our creation from happening. We tap away any resistance.
In truth, it is our own beliefs that can limit our creations. By tapping out the doubts on our list, we are helping our wish become free to move forward until it is visible in physical reality. The better we are at imagining our desired future, or wish, the more energy is applied to it’s manifestation. When we conceptualize what we want, and then imagine what it will be like to have it, and remove all resistance through tapping, success is ours.
“If you will assume your desire and live there as though it were true, no power on earth can stop it from becoming a fact.”
It was not until my son Adam’s sudden passing in 2014 that I truly understood resisting change. How was I going to be able to bear having a family Thanksgiving, let alone a family Christmas ever again without Adam these traditions were so engrained in me and so important that I never thought it would change, and that they would always be “picture perfect”. I remember stating to my family weeks after Adam passed that I did not know how I was to be able to ever have another holiday without him being present and that I wanted to just skip over them from now on.
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