Forgiveness of Self

We all know someone who seems to never get their sh*t together. They seem to screw up every good opportunity that comes their way. They make horrible choices and then indulge in some addiction to not have to think about it or to keep their pain away. It gets tiresome to worry about them, repeatedly disappointed by them and can be painful to watch.

Consider that buried deep beneath the surface of that human being could possibly be shame, self blame and guilt. If we put our judgments aside for a moment and peer into that person’s heart and mind, we may see the root cause of a string of reasons that person felt they were not worthy of love, success and self fulfillment. Something for which they could not forgive themself. It may have been thinking they were to blame when they were a child. It could be a circumstance like causing an accident. It could be because they repeatedly heard harsh talk and messages that they were no good. So many possible scenarios. Scenarios that set up an opportunity to heal and jump start their life by finding a way to forgive themself.

Now let’s turn it around and look at our own selves. Be honest and don’t run away. It’s just between us and God. What is the thing buried deep within us that has evaded our forgiveness? No matter how big or small, pick one.

If we could imagine ourselves as spirit before coming into this life, looking at all the possible choices for a life experience, we may have wanted to experience both sides of something in order to learn everything about it. For example, we may want to know how it feels to hurt someone or take advantage of them. Then, we may want to know what it feels like to realize it, forgive ourselves for it and then be able to make amends to that person. We would have to create the situation in order to have the full experience of forgiveness of ourselves and others, in order to move on to a better life, armed with the knowledge of how we don’t want it to be.

In God’s eyes, and we are part of God, and God is within us… Nothing is unforgivable. Nothing. If, in fact, we are really a divine being having a human experience, then maybe we can take a step back from our blame, shame and guilt and try something a little different, like forgiving ourselves, and moving on… with love.

Dr. Wayne, in his blogpost entitled Forgive Yourself, wrote:

“You were the person you were supposed to be then so you could become the person you are now. You needed to do the things you did in order to find out how you didn’t want to be. Rather than cursing the past, bless it and forgive yourself entirely. When you know that all of those experiences were a part of the divine design of your life, you can afford to forgive.

So many things that I did in my life, I look back and think that I would never do those things today. And yet all of my past actions have contributed to helping me be the man I am today. Say to yourself, ‘I had to be that person and I’ve learned from him (or her).’ Forgiving yourself is every bit as important as forgiving other people. You did the best that you could, given the conditions of your life, and you can’t ask any more of yourself or of anyone else. Forgive yourself and welcome love back into your life. When you can do this, a kind of balancing occurs. Rather than atoning for sins with guilt, you are more committed to promoting joy and service. You will begin to do what you originally came here to do.”

Each new moment is an opportunity to create anew. God wants us to lighten our burdens and ascend with the Earth. God wants us to bring closure to our old ways of thinking and wake up and remember who we really are. To carry those secrets and burdens until the moments just before our death and then unburden ourselves, is an old energy way of doing things. Forgive ourselves now for everything… absolutely everything we knew we did or didn’t know we did. For those we knew we hurt and didn’t know we hurt. As the darkness falls away with the rising energy, we can just let those things fall away with it. It’s okay. God says it’s okay. We don’t have to carry them any longer. This is the time to let go of all those icky things and forgive ourselves for everything. And then move onward and upward.

And once we have healed ourselves, perhaps we can see another human being struggling with self forgiveness a little bit differently. Because one light shining brightly, can spark another. (and another)