Managing Expectations

I want to chat about disappointment and expectations. Sitting outside this morning before dawn watching our world transition from dark to light, I began to reflect on how hurt we become when disappointed. Our disappointment in a person or a situation can stick around and fester so it may be worth taking a hard look at how we can do some cleanup. If we take a moment to think about it, what really happened was that our expectations were not met. If we remove our expectations and set them aside, we might be able to clearly see that the person did not posses the qualities we were seeking from them in the first place. In that case, it made complete sense that we did not get what we wanted. When we catch ourselves applying expectations, if we push the pause button, we may be able to avoid causing our own wounding. And that’s the key… When we realize that we played a role in our own wounding, it actually allows us to let go of old hurts and resentments that take up room in our memories, creating blockages in our energy fields that show up as imbalances in our bodies.

When we are willing to be totally honest with ourselves and take responsibility for putting expectations on something that may not be able to fulfill said expectations, well, just realizing the part we played in it tempers our disappointment. It allows us to be in the driver’s seat of our life and frees us up to be more mindfully aware and in the present moment. Those disappointments hindered our ability to fully live because we were making our happiness dependent on whether our desires were met or not. The process of clearing expectations can be transforming. Paring them down to reasonable, or not employing them at all, could be the key to freeing up the internal resources we vitally need to create the reality we are seeking in the first place.

By freeing up the energy flow within our bodies, we will have more power and stamina to create the life we want. We can trust our environment more because we are feeling a part of it as a living, interactive ingredient. Consequently, we become active in our own healing so that we can grow into more light-filled areas. By clearing the dross from undermet expectations, we become freed up to seek the light and grow toward the light. When blockages are cleared, more Ki, Chi, Prana life-force energy can flow through us to feed us. When we have cleared the energy channels inside our own bodies and stay in the flow of Mother Earth’s life-giving energy, we have everything we need to cover the distance… and then some.