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When It’s Hard to Let Go

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Changes that suddenly come upon us. Changes that slowly creep up and then whisper in your ear “it’s now or never.” Changes that call us gently and urge our response.  Changes that we know are coming, but we put off again and again, knowing that when we can no longer do it, it’s gonna be painful.

How we deal and manage change is all part of our learning and mastery of hearing our inner guidance and choosing how we are going to create next.  When we are connected with our inner self, our higher self, and God, our lives become beautiful fluid works of art that enable us to learn about who we are so that we can creatively express it outwardly.  Holding onto things, situations and people we love keeps us from moving forward and creating new outwardly expanding expressions.

This summer is going to be all about reflecting on our lives and relationships.  Things that are heavy, stagnant or buried within us are going to be brought up in our faces to bring us to aha moments so that they can be finally personally reconciled, so that we can feel “I’m okay with it, I understand it now.”  Any heaviness has to be transformed into the fluid, flow of divine energy, without judgment.  The process is going to happen whether we are ready or not.  The Earth’s vibration is rising and we are rising along with it.  Any heaviness may create blockages in our bodies, that may create sudden serious health issues, because our bodies cannot rise and properly adjust or recalibrate to the higher vibration of an energy wave.  The heaviness of holding onto pain, blame, guilt, shame, or fear can cause us sudden serious health issues during this time of rising with the new energy.

We are evolving into who we really are as divine beings, and that is Love.  Love energy flows and is fluid.  It creates beauty with every moment.  It breathes in and out and connects us to the All.  When we say the simple words “I AM” we align ourselves with the truth of our existence and affirm there is no judgment or fear… so we can just let go… and allow the thing we are letting go be of service for someone else, or be transformed into light, or just do what it will do and we need not know.  Usually when we let go there is a gift in it for us to discover.

My husband and I just went through a deeply emotional transition.  I began this blog eight years ago when we first embarked on our US travels in an RV.  Last week we sold our home on wheels, and yesterday we sold our truck.  Now that we put down some roots, live in a house, and work in the garden, travelling by RV just didn’t suit us anymore.  It took us four years to be able to do it. For me, it was so hard to say goodbye to that life, but we just had to just do it, just couldn’t hold on any longer. We traded the truck for a hybrid.  We plan to travel the New England states and visit our grandkids who just moved to Maine.  This will allow us to fill in the last states on our map, the map we used to track the states we have visited, like most RVers do.

So, in letting go of something we loved dearly, even though it was very hard, we opened the door to new life, so that we can create new expressions of who we are, working in partnership with our environment and in the flow of the new energy… and someone else will get to create and express themselves with the things we have released.  When we align ourselves with our highest vibrational reality, old energy baggage transforms into flowing creations of new energy experiences.  And that is what we came here for… to keep expanding and learn through experience.

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Have the Courage to be The Real You

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In a previous blog post, we talked about the ego’s role in letting go… the discussion continues…

Having the courage to be the real you means rewiring our perceptions of ourselves rooted in our early days on this Earth.  The lessons we learned, the things we witnessed in our families, the messages internalized by our teachers and the bullying by classmates.  Then what it meant to operate in an acceptable way in society, our first jobs, then government and politics kicked in.  Not to mention the bombardment of “you’re not complete until you have this, do this, look like this, buy this” by our media and commercials.  All these form the basis of our Earthly ego.

I’m not saying to live in a hut, off the grid, in utter solitude… but I am saying that the time is now to rewire our funnel and control the openness with which the societal noise uses to enter our being.  I’m suggesting that we be our own true self first, and then make the conscious choice of whether we will allow our full attention on something for a certain length of time, then unplug and be our true inner self again.  I’m not saying that the ego is all bad either, but any self image message that says that we are anything but conscious beings of love, is an illusion.

Rather than get rid of the ego entirely or even villainize the ego, I propose to clean out the ego and get it on board our personal choo-choo train toward being an evolved human.  Sort through the messages that gave us our Earthly identity in an effort to just do a little house cleaning, in order to remember who we truly are in the now in an evolved state of consciousness.

That message we internalized as a three year old, when a parent directed their own anger and frustration on us and set off an internalized belief and chain of events that led to our own self sabotaging cycles.  We did not know then that the anger was about them and not us.  In our ego housecleaning, we would try to forgive them, they didn’t know any better- we can’t change them, only they have the power to do that… but we can reclaim the truth of who we really are now.

Housecleaning the ego can free up one’s ability to gain the inner peace needed to master the Law of Attraction in order to create the life we want and attract the experiences and happiness for which we yearn.

Dr. Wayne has these suggestions to get us started:

  1. Think of yourself as a peaceful person, pause before you act or react.
  2. Practice releasing fear and guilt, you do not need it.
  3. Shed what offends you and your grievances, don’t take things so personally.
  4. Try to refrain from condemning, just get still and let the judgment subside.
  5. Embrace your truth, be your authentic self.
  6. Make an inner commitment to establish a new relationship with truth– when you catch yourself overstating the truth, try to rephrase it in truth.
  7. Try to steer your inner dialogues toward your path of purpose.

In his true unique fashion, my friend, Erik Medhus says this about good and bad ego in his Mom’s blog: 

…the “you” who you are when you’re not thinking about anything in particular is the REAL you.

GOOD EGO, true ego is who you are when you shut the f**k up inside. The more you empower THAT, the calmer you’ll feel, the more you’ll be able to do with your life without getting in your own way. 

If you’re afraid of that quiet space I’m tellin’ ya, everything you’re lookin for is in there.  

BAD EGO is everything you’re doin’ that avoids the quiet spot. That’s the (hilarious / ironic) part about obsessing about ego, being all self-righteous that your ego is smaller than the next dude’s, like it’s a cell phone and smaller is better. 

As long as you know how to PIPE THE HELL DOWN inside your own head, it doesn’t matter how “big” your ego is. 

Good ego is knowing you can listen to someone else’s truth from that little quiet place inside your chest – AND LET THEM F**KING HAVE THEIR OWN REALITY!  Good ego is knowing that this person’s truth DOES NOT threaten your own reality.  I’m serious, it doesn’t.  And you know what’s causing all that shit to go flying around?  The BAD ego – yours, other people’s.  That’s why people are so obsessive about “killing the ego” – it’s like when drinking caused all evil in the world!  Now ego is the big scapegoat.

Nothing you can do about that with your own bad ego, that’ll just make a bigger storm – the best way to deal with it is lock in your GOOD sense of self, that (inner spark that is the true you) and let that zensome-b*tch deal with it!

I REPEAT:  the main thing about EGO is free will – the ability (gift) to decide for yourself what you think about all this sh*t flying around!

In an old energy, the ego served its purpose to get us to this point in the now.  With this new energy and the delicious growth ahead of us in remembering who we really are, the ego becomes our connection between what is inside us and what we see manifested in the world.

 

Affirmation:  

Today I release all inappropriate things that do not work or keep me from moving forward.

I release anything that defines what I am that is not majestic to my body or self.

I release all things in my history that keeps me from seeing my magnificence today.

Letting Go

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Dr. Wayne said in his blog post about letting go ” Most stress in our lives results from hanging on to beliefs that keep us striving for more, because ego stubbornly believes we need it. When we make the shift away from attachment, the influence of our ego fades. We replace attachment with contentment. Chasing and striving—and then becoming attached to what we chased after—is a source of anxiety that feeds Ambition, but it won’t satisfy the need for Meaning at our soul level.”  

My friend, Erik Medhus says in his Mom’s blog, “Letting go involves two things: One is the brain driven by the ego that keeps wanting to bring it up and look at it. [And two] Humans are naturally perfectionists, they want to over-analyze to understand what they could have done otherwise they feel that they have an incomplete answer……So, sometimes letting go and you can’t, means you don’t have all the information. But get this catch: Sometimes you can’t get all the info. You just can’t. That’s when you have to forgive and forget and say you’re just not meant to know. You’re totally on the right path, Mom. If you didn’t have your ego, then you wouldn’t have a hard time letting go, because it just wouldn’t be about you.”

Some of our most stubborn baggage is stubborn simply because we haven’t figured out all the “hows” and “whys” yet.  Our egos want to find a way to make it feel right and find a way to BE right.  Sometimes even if there is no possible way it can ever be made right.  In this case, we just have to trust God and the Universe, and let it go.  Dr. Wayne, in his book, The Power of Intention, gives us 7 steps for taming the ego.

  1.  Stop being offended.
  2. Let go of your need to win.
  3. Let go of your need to be right.
  4. Let go of your need to be superior.
  5. Let go of your need to have more.
  6. Let go of identifying yourself on the basis of your achievements.
  7. Let go of your reputation.

Things are shifting.  We are evolving rapidly.  Many people are going through a crisis of self.  It is more important than ever to let go of that which we cannot afford to keep carrying, so that we can step into the shoes of our divine selves.  Time has run out for the excuses we use to hang onto our problems and it is time to release them and move forward.

More about the ego here.