In a previous blog post, we talked about the ego’s role in letting go… the discussion continues…

Having the courage to be the real you means rewiring our perceptions of ourselves rooted in our early days on this Earth.  The lessons we learned, the things we witnessed in our families, the messages internalized by our teachers and the bullying by classmates.  Then what it meant to operate in an acceptable way in society, our first jobs, then government and politics kicked in.  Not to mention the bombardment of “you’re not complete until you have this, do this, look like this, buy this” by our media and commercials.  All these form the basis of our Earthly ego.

I’m not saying to live in a hut, off the grid, in utter solitude… but I am saying that the time is now to rewire our funnel and control the openness with which the societal noise uses to enter our being.  I’m suggesting that we be our own true self first, and then make the conscious choice of whether we will allow our full attention on something for a certain length of time, then unplug and be our true inner self again.  I’m not saying that the ego is all bad either, but any self image message that says that we are anything but conscious beings of love, is an illusion.

Rather than get rid of the ego entirely or even villainize the ego, I propose to clean out the ego and get it on board our personal choo-choo train toward being an evolved human.  Sort through the messages that gave us our Earthly identity in an effort to just do a little house cleaning, in order to remember who we truly are in the now in an evolved state of consciousness.

That message we internalized as a three year old, when a parent directed their own anger and frustration on us and set off an internalized belief and chain of events that led to our own self sabotaging cycles.  We did not know then that the anger was about them and not us.  In our ego housecleaning, we would try to forgive them, they didn’t know any better- we can’t change them, only they have the power to do that… but we can reclaim the truth of who we really are now.

Housecleaning the ego can free up one’s ability to gain the inner peace needed to master the Law of Attraction in order to create the life we want and attract the experiences and happiness for which we yearn.

Dr. Wayne has these suggestions to get us started:

1. Think of yourself as a peaceful person, pause before you act or react.
2. Practice releasing fear and guilt, you do not need it.
3. Shed what offends you and your grievances, don’t take things so personally.
4. Try to refrain from condemning, just get still and let the judgment subside.
5. Embrace your truth, be your authentic self.
6. Make an inner commitment to establish a new relationship with truth– when you catch yourself overstating the truth, try to rephrase it in truth.
7. Try to steer your inner dialogues toward your path of purpose.

In his true unique fashion, my friend, Erik Medhus says this about good and bad ego in his Mom’s blog: 

…the “you” who you are when you’re not thinking about anything in particular is the REAL you.

GOOD EGO, true ego is who you are when you shut the f**k up inside. The more you empower THAT, the calmer you’ll feel, the more you’ll be able to do with your life without getting in your own way. 

If you’re afraid of that quiet space I’m tellin’ ya, everything you’re lookin for is in there.  

BAD EGO is everything you’re doin’ that avoids the quiet spot. That’s the (hilarious / ironic) part about obsessing about ego, being all self-righteous that your ego is smaller than the next dude’s, like it’s a cell phone and smaller is better. 

As long as you know how to PIPE THE HELL DOWN inside your own head, it doesn’t matter how “big” your ego is. 

Good ego is knowing you can listen to someone else’s truth from that little quiet place inside your chest – AND LET THEM F**KING HAVE THEIR OWN REALITY!  Good ego is knowing that this person’s truth DOES NOT threaten your own reality.  I’m serious, it doesn’t.  And you know what’s causing all that shit to go flying around?  The BAD ego – yours, other people’s.  That’s why people are so obsessive about “killing the ego” – it’s like when drinking caused all evil in the world!  Now ego is the big scapegoat.

Nothing you can do about that with your own bad ego, that’ll just make a bigger storm – the best way to deal with it is lock in your GOOD sense of self, that (inner spark that is the true you) and let that zensome-b*tch deal with it!

I REPEAT:  the main thing about EGO is free will – the ability (gift) to decide for yourself what you think about all this sh*t flying around!

In an old energy, the ego served its purpose to get us to this point in the now.  With this new energy and the delicious growth ahead of us in remembering who we really are, the ego becomes our connection between what is inside us and what we see manifested in the world.

 

Affirmation:  

Today I release all inappropriate things that do not work or keep me from moving forward.

I release anything that defines what I am that is not majestic to my body or self.

I release all things in my history that keeps me from seeing my magnificence today.