The problems in our lives.  We would prefer they not show up in our lives right now.  We would prefer to have a happy day without something happening that makes us feel a little bit of dread and intrudes on our smooth, happy workflow and our joy.  Those big or little problems that keep popping up and just won’t go away.

If we are willing to be totally honest and ask ourselves what thing or things pop up and disrupt our flow of passion, what things linger in the background of our heads that disturb our joy?  Without victim shaming or invalidating anyone’s experiences, I propose that we loosen our grip on the reasons these problems are foremost in our minds or hover in the backs of them as we try to go about our day, just for the purpose of looking at it in a way we may not have considered.  By using our conscious mind to redefine these things, we may just be able to effect the kind of change that always seemed elusive.

We’ve all been hearing that we should try to stay in the present moment.  The now is where our power lies to choose the path with which we will resonate.  That thing we don’t like may have shown up at this moment in our lives for the purpose of giving us clarity on what we don’t want in our lives.  Seeing an example right in front of our faces, illuminated through contrast, helps us clearly determine what we do prefer.

By reframing those things as examples of what we do not prefer in our lives, instead of sticky problems needing a solution, constructively changes the energy of it to be that of a simple tool.  Converting the illusion of “this menacing thing” hanging over our heads or taking up space in the backs of our minds into helpful tools is something we are allowed to do, and opens the door to allow things we do prefer into our lives.  We get a beneficial effect from this thing by using it to be more clear about what we do prefer in our lives.

If we announce something like, “Okay, this thing has shown up in my life just so that I can clearly decide what it is that I do prefer, so I can declare it, and bring more of what I do prefer into my life.” By staying in this state instead of fear, anxiety, confusion or anger, we only get a beneficial experience from it.  Since we cannot perceive or experience what we are not in the vibration of, we actually shift our vibration to what we prefer, so that we can experience more of what we do prefer.

If we are drawn to conflict, being curious and fascinated by it, we will draw more of it to our life.  If we carry a feeling of love, by focusing on doing things that we feel passionate about and bring us joy, then we bring more love into our lives.  We can treat things that we don’t like in a way that we can use them in a way that we do prefer, instead of trying to run from them, in order to get the beneficial effect from them.

We can also lighten up on ourselves.  Beliefs keep better things away, so we can attract new things that are more relevant for us naturally, if we loosen our beliefs and judgments.  When we lighten up, our vibration rises.  Experiencing more joy in our lives happens naturally as our vibration rises.  As our conscious vibration rises high enough, we can look back at that thing and it will actually appear non-sensical or illogical to us.  A clear indicator that we have used that tool well.  That thing that used to be a thing in our lives, now looks a bit silly.

We are fundamentally worthy of good things simply because we exist.  It is up to us to decide how we define those things that happen to us in our lives.  The saying, “God doesn’t always give us what we want, but rather what we need” comes to mind.  On the surface, those things may look different than we expected.  We have to stop judging them and understand they are there for a reason, as simple tools, so we can use them that way.